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I’ve outlined how HR Life positively changed my personal life and I have also written about how it affected me negatively. Coincidentally I write this during Mental Health Awareness month and the burnout won.
Burnout is real and no joke. Towards the end of 2015, I started seeing a mental health counselor (yes, I am admitting to that). My life was spinning out of control and I was very unhappy. Work was affecting me greatly. The anxiety and depression were real. I took my work very personal and strived to make a change in each and every Human Resources role I had. I worked very long hours, my work-life balance was off-balance.
My frustrations spilled over into home life. My husband would call me at work and I was always too busy to talk to him – like always. When I traveled out of state to other locations, I would be in my hotel room working. I didn’t have any time to say goodnight.
When I got home from a day’s work, I was tired, lazy and just plain miserable. All I did was talk about work and the daily struggles – couldn’t leave work at work. Often times, I would be on my laptop working on the weekends!
In early 2017, my manager told me my role was relocating to another state. This specific location needed more focus and the seasoned, work culture needed severe help. The company needed an HR presence every day instead of one week each month. Here are the two reasons I said no:
- Tired of every investigation, employee relations issues and the refusal of management to little by little help change the culture. When I left, one of the projects we were working on was learning about “The Oz Principle: Getting Results Through Individual and Organizational Accountability.” The concept was AMAZING. However, buy-in was necessary from the top-down and management action was critical. I had a sense early on they loved the message but were unwilling to take action. To my knowledge today, that project went defunct.
- I couldn’t leave my family. After all, I was working to repair the damage already done and I couldn’t focus full time on the problem location I had been working with for several years – I was done.
I spent the summer of 2017 relaxing. I spent lots of time outside near the pool, running with friends and ultimately learning how to be selective with opportunities where company culture matched my needs and project-related strengths. One of the things I learned in counseling was to focus on yourself and not everyone else. That was a struggle for me. So I continued counseling for several years because there is so much more to what is mentally going on that it takes a long time to get through it. Writing down my thoughts actually helps as well and I was doing a lot of it.
Thoughts on Paper Created New Ideas
While unemployed, I was on social media more often than not because I was essentially bored. I came across a new opportunity that would help to showcase my thoughts: personal HR stories and the ways I relieve stress and anxiety as a result of the HR burnout. I signed up for a FREE “Start a Money Making Blog 5-day” online course. This gave me an opportunity and a network to tap into for learning and growth with the end game to supplement my consultant income. If you enjoy story-telling, writing, and social sharing, etc. this course is an awesome beginner start to what could be a huge success! If you stick to it, success will follow!
New Role/New Opportunity
About 4 months after I left my last full-time role, I became an HR Consultant I titled: HR Pro to Go, essentially being that person who can jump into an HR role and take over in a pinch as well as working on HR-related company projects such as human resources info systems (HRIS) and application tracking (ATS) transitions. What I have enjoyed the most are the pre and post due diligence acquisition projects that have afforded me so much knowledge. Don’t get me wrong – there is still burnout but limited!
Flexibility, as it relates to a work-life balance, is what I seek day in and day out. There are many opportunities for those who are interested in a flexible, work-at-home environment. I have subscribed to a job site called flexjobs.com for a couple of years now. I believe this is a great site that showcases companies with flexibility in their work.
It is through flexjobs.com I was offered an opportunity to be a Destination Services Consultant where I work on programs that help companies transfer their workforce to a new city – I do love my city so I thought this was a great opportunity and I get to choose the programs I want to work!
My husband and I hit a really rough patch and continue to try and work on our life together. It hasn’t been easy and I am not sure where it will go but we continue to work on it. While I have made the change as a result of what transpired in the past, it still feels like he is angry I have chosen to get mentally healthy by changing my work-style. I think for him, much of it is about money since I was well paid. It is a daily struggle.
As I write this…
I have been working as an independent contractor/consultant for a company in Human Resources. At first, I was the interim HR Manager while the company determined the next steps. After several months, my consultant role switched to acquisition due diligence and currently wrapping up HRIS, Payroll, and Recruitment (ATS) software transitions – I love it!
I am learning and working more on my blog site – it is a lot of work but enjoyable. In fact, I received my first check earlier this year and it has helped to stay motivated to continue!
My work-life balance has been a relieving change because I make my own schedule while remaining flexible for the companies I work with. It doesn’t come without some stressful times though. Sometimes the burnout creeps in during projects. Other times, the hours have not been abundant-hence the reason my husband still gets frustrated. However, in time I believe things happen for a reason and everything will work out in the end!
All the best… *Judean*
How has your personal life changed as a result of your day job? Are you suffering from burnout? Let me know by commenting below!
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